THE PUZZLE OF A WOMAN

The is no such thing as perfect love or perfect relationship between a man and woman. What separates a successful love affair from a failure is the willing of both parties to compromise. Give and take. Patience. Willingness to sacrifice. Willingness to forgive. And most of all, a constant drive to express one's love to the other. These are the foundations of a lasting love relationship. Without them, love love affair will last forever. Women are the most vocals in terms of complaints, discontentment and disappointments about men in most relationship. Men are "self-centered", "Lazy", "Child-like", "insensitive", "frail to temptations" and "easy-go-lucky". Women will say. And they are true most of the time. But many women choose to embrace and accept these "normal" imperfection of men. They are the women that will most likely find true happiness, being compromising individual. Because the truth is, women are not ...

I was driving with our company's Chief Architect and we suddenly saw a woman in a very revealing sexy dress with her cleavage overly exposed. She was in her mid 20's, a bit chubby, light complexion and looked liberated. "Nice dress!" I casually mentioned. Our Chief Architect responded "Some girls really know how to get men's attention with the way the dress". I nodded and said "Yes, that cleavage is something. Ha ha ha!" I'm not sure if most women are aware of this : Men look at women's cleavage as a matter of instinct, because men are born to admire and appreciate women. And a woman's breast is one of the sexiest part of a woman's body, regardless of size and form. Well, that's as far as men are concern. But men's admiration to a woman's breast is just part of the whole process. Men will also look at the woman's face. After that, men will look at the woman's overall appearance. But the face and overall app...

Women are emotionally stronger than men. No wonder God and Nature entrusted the rearing and caring of babies and children to women. Women by nature can handle more stress, more pain and more depressing situation than men. More men died by suicide than women. In short, women are tougher than men in handling desperate situation. But no matter how tough women are, there is one thing they cannot handle, or almost cannot handle: They hate being ignored. Even as little girls, they already demonstrate craving or at least seeking attention from people they care about. A little girl normally spend more time charming their their mother, specially their fathers just to get attention. They spend more time in the mirror admiring how beautiful they look more than ever. Any man who knows this little truth can easily get the girl of his dreams. All he needs to do is shower the girl with love, care and plenty of ATTENTION! More relationships and more marriages around the world were broken due to me...

In the real world, we see men as the boss in almost all kind organization. Men are the normal big bosses in most nations, most companies, most groups or just any kind of organizations. Perhaps the reason for this can be explained in three aspects, first historically, second psychologically and third physically. Historically, men are the always the boss specially in a religious organization. The bible and Quran are male bias no doubt. Psychologically, men are aggressive, adventurous and has more straight forward thinking. Physically, men are the bigger specie compare to women. All of these are not justifications why men are the usual boss. This is more of rationalizing in trying to understand this phenomenon Enter the Wowen. History has been unkind to women. They are stereotyped as second class citizens next to men. They are the supporting actresses in every great story of men. Only in the 20th century that the rule of women in this world was slowly recognized and given credit. Many...

Opposite attracts. This law of science and nature couldn't be more true in the mysterious love and hate relationship between man and woman. Women are behave. Men are like children in grown up bodies. Women are soft and poised. Men are hard and rough. Women seeks serenity and beauty. Men seeks adventure and action. Men are not necessarily evil. And it goes to say women are not necessarily angels. They just happened to be opposite, yet both part of whole. They compliment each other. The yin and yang. The light and darkness. The beauty and the Beast. You call it want you want. But the bottom line is, The Man makes the Woman complete and Vice Versa. So what? Where is this monologue heading? Well, this will at least enlighten those who wonder why so many Beautiful and Adorable Women fall on the lap of Bad Boys who don't care what the world thinks. Women willing walk the isle of churches in their wedding dress to marry Bad Boys while their relatives and friends secret cries in dee...

Almost every woman has a list. It could be a written list or a mental list. This list is the most secret and heavily guarded in her heart. Only the most trusted and selected few are allowed to know what's in it. Perhaps her best friend, her mother or someone special to her heart. After all, she needs some advise and inputs too if her list is something fair, practical and not out of this world. This list will go through a lot of revision and major changes and the woman grows wiser and mature. Because as the woman grows older, her preference and impression of an ideal man also change. Many woman won't admit, but good looks or at least a pleasant looks almost always land on number 1 or number 2 on their list, specially for the young women. Being Friendly and Funny are always in the number 2 to 3. While being smart and sensible are sure to land on number 4 to 5. Being rich is sure to place in the last for young girls. After all, young girls just want to have a good and fun love l...

In the game of courtship and love, Men likes to think they are the hunters. They see them selves as the tiger who stalk their pray, observe them from a distance and make the kill at the right time. Simple as that. Men love to hunt multiple prey simultaneously too. Once they catch them, they play with it, enjoyed it and choose the one that makes them happier and comfortable. After they get bored, they look again for another prey to hunt. Men don't do it as a matter of pleasure or logic. They do it as matter of genetic program. After all, men are programmed to spread their genetic legacy to as many women as possible. But in the real world of courtship and love, women are the real hunters. They are much more advance, subtle and thorough. Yes, thorough. Because women are trying to get their catch that last a life time. Women don't hunt for fun. They hunt to secure her future and her future children's future. She must "hunt" for a "prey" that can help her r...

Imagine a home without a woman. Imagine an office without a woman. Imagine a community without a woman. Without a woman's touch, Life will be colorless, tasteless and less interesting. , For men, a world without a woman is a simple straight forward world. No issues, no complication and yes, no problem. But life without issues, without complications and no problems is no life at all. It makes the world unworthy of living. Better die peacefully than to live a world without a woman. This blog is all about man's fascination about women. It also includes man's frustration about women. Since time immemorial, men failed to understand the puzzle of a woman by ignoring them, stereotyping them and giving them less priority. Men have no idea that the main and ultimate source of their true and eternal happiness lies in the hands of women. All they need to do is take time to observe, endure and learn to deal women the right way. When I say "Right Way", I mean the woman...